Demi's Love-Hate Relationship With Herself
Ashton Kutcher was featured in a pair of oddly timed Men's and Women's Health interviews (they broke one day after his divorce from Demi Moore was announced) where he said, "I could never be with a woman who felt like she needed to change me." He also said, "I think it's all about working on the relationship and making it better…when it's good. Don't wait for a problem to work on things."
Now, two months later, Demi is having her say in the February issue of Harper's Bazaar.
In the interview, conducted by her longtime friend Amanda De Cadenet, Demi opens up about cheating, being single and her own warped self-image.
When talking about cheating, Amanda admits that it scares her, while Demi counters with, "I used to think that what scared me was the idea of being abandoned until someone said to me, 'Only children can be abandoned. Adults can't be abandoned because we have a choice. Children don't have a choice.' So I started to rethink. 'Okay, it's not that. What's the underlying thread that really scares me?' I think what scares me is not having the courage to reach my full potential."
Part of that self-actualization involves not wallowing in past mistakes. "Letting go of the outcome. Truly being in the moment. Not reflecting on the past. Not projecting into the future. That's freedom," she says. "Not caring more about what other people think than what you think. That's freedom. Somebody wrote something to me that said, 'Don't let your wounds make you become someone you're not.' That's really powerful. And not taking life too seriously."
But even through all the fame, money and fans, Demi still struggles -- particularly with her much-discussed body. "I have had a love-hate relationship with my body," she says. "I sit today in a place of greater acceptance of my body, and that includes not just my weight but all of the things that come with your changing body as you age ... I find peace when I don't see my body as my enemy, when I step back and have appreciation and look at all that my body has done for me. It's allowed me to give birth to three beautiful children, allowed me to explore different roles as an actor, allowed me to be strong. You can't look at yourself in the mirror and tear your body apart. You have to look at it and go, 'Thank you. Thank you for standing by me, for being there for me no matter what I have put you through.'"
For more from Demi's interview in Harper's Bazaar, click here!