Should Rihanna Rewatch Her 20/20 Interview?
In November 2009, Rihanna appeared on 20/20 and broke her silence about the shocking incident that left her battered and bleeding inside Chris Brown's car.
"It's humiliating to see your face like that," she said of the leaked hospital photos that have been forever burned onto fans' retinas. And while reliving that night might be equally difficult, re-watching the interview is sounding more and more imperative in light of recent developments.
Most notably, Rihanna has reunited with Chris Brown -- musically if not personally -- for a remix of Birthday Cake, off her latest album.
Fans are totally split over the implications of this union -- some feel that the time to forgive Chris for his actions has long passed while others simply aren't buying his contrition act. And while Rihanna clearly believes her opinion is the only one that counts in matters like this, I would like to call attention to one particular quote from that 20/20 interview that I feel is especially telling in this situation.
After Diane asked Rihanna about her fleeting reunion with Chris in March of 2009, she says, "When I realized that my selfish decision for love could result into some young girl getting killed, I could not be easy with that. I couldn't be held responsible for telling them to go back. Even if Chris never hit me again, who's to say their boyfriend won't kill these girls. These are young girls and … I just didn't realize how much of an impact I had on these girls live until that happened. It was a wake-up call for me – big time."
And while Rihanna is clearly sick of letting her past define her future (her Tweets make that abundantly clear) and being placed upon an unrealistic pedestal by the public, she needs to recognize -- and accept -- the fact that she is being held to a higher standard than most because, unlike the millions of women who suffer in silence, she has a voice. And her message is treated like gospel by millions of young men and women all across this globe who have now been told, in essence, that forgiveness is possible in time.
That's why I feel it's time for Rihanna to rewatch this interview -- or at least re-familiarize herself with the statistics she spouted off in it (like the fact it takes most women eight or nine attempts to successfully leave their abuser) because while her feelings towards Chris may have changed, the facts have not.